What is slut shaming and how can we overcome it? Image shows a women on a beach in a vert skimpy bikini to illustrate the kind of image that would be criticised by those who slut shame.

Slut Shaming And How To Overcome It

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In my lifetime i have been called a ‘slut’ a fair few times. It’s a word that makes me cross, not just from a feminism point of view, but also as i do not consider myself to be anything like the definition of what a slut means: A sexually promiscuous woman, or a woman who behaves or dresses in an overtly sexual way. So what is Slut Shaming and how do we overcome it?

I have to admit the persons that have called me a slut were mostly females. Although for many years now i haven’t (well to my face) been called a slut, i have witnessed other women more often on social media being labelled as ‘sluts’.

Slut Shaming

Social media has made criticising and slut shaming easier than ever as both women and men sit behind there screens, anonymously shaming women for their sexual activities or the clothing they wear. Truth be told most would never ever do such things to the persons face. Yet once they are behind a screen its easy to get on a soapbox and preach about an other life, without thinking of the emotional consequences for the person who is on the receiving end of such slurs.

Reasons Why Slut Shaming Occurs

It’s no surprise that the number one reason slut shaming occurs is due to jealously. Jealously arises when we feel a lack in a certain area of our life. So in the case of slut shaming it could be jealously of the female figure, the lifestyle, the accolades, the want to be more confident or have more male attention, not feeling able to gain a women similar to the one being shamed or even the want to be able to live a more sexually explorative life.

We will jump to a conclusion about a persons motives usually based off something as insignificant as a short dress, a large cleavage in view, being seen with multiple different men, having a career choice such as topless modelling or stripping or enjoying a varied sex life with multiple partners. Ultimately though, its an insecurity we are projecting onto the person we are slut shaming.

Why Feminists Detest Slut Shaming

The biggest issue with slut shaming from a feminist perspective is because the assumption that men can be promiscuous and provocative and that is ok. Yet a women is labelled, berated and vilified for similar behaviours. It’s the ultimate in male privilege . Why does a woman have to dress conservatively to be taken seriously? Or keep their sexual partner count to a minimum to be deemed less of a slut?

How To Overcome Slut Shaming

Firstly as females are the biggest culprits for slut shaming, lets be accountable and STOP making assumptions of other females. Lets STOP seeing how women dress as a pre-requisite to their sexual nature. Lets STOP assuming that it is anything less than normal to have many different sexual partners. Lets START supporting other females choices and putting our own insecurities to the side to applaud the fact the are not ruled by theirs.

If you witness slut shaming, CALL IT OUT! Show the person it is aimed at that you support them and you do not accept that they are being labelled in such a way.

Support freedom of expression, whether it me through clothing, music, career or experimentation with sex. Don’t be ruled by social norms or expectations, challenge them!

If you are being subjected to slut shaming, do not accept that this is what you are. You are more than clothing, beliefs or actions. Do not allow bigots to dull your fire and beautiful soul. See them for what they are. Their behaviours say EVERYTHING about them and NOTHING about you.

Be proud and if you have the confidence agree with them. There is nothing more frustrating for a person who is throwing about criticism, than the person they are trying to shame, smiling sweetly and saying, ‘yes i am’ or ‘thank you’ . You are showing that the bigoted view does nothing to destroy you and will get under their skin more than their original insecurity.

Have you ever been subjected to slut shaming or witnessed it? We would love to hear in the comments below.

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